We know you have a lot of options when it comes to dating guidance.  

To help you clarify whether we’re the right people to help you find love, here are a few ways we’re different from other dating experts.

our dating coaches are also psychotherapists 

Our coaches have psychology degrees; most hold Master’s degrees in Counseling Psychology. That means they’ve spent years studying the art and science of building happy, long-lasting relationships. Working with our team means you’ll have a highly educated expert on your team, not a coach with little to no training.

In addition, almost all of our coaches are also trained psychotherapists, which means they’ve spent thousands of supervised hours helping people like you. It also means they pursue continuing education regularly and abide by an ethical code.

Working with a dating coach who’s also a therapist allows you to address all potential obstacles to finding love. In addition to helping you improve your dating strategy and skills through dating coaching, your clinician can help you stop self-defeating behaviors and heal internal blocks to love through dating therapy.  

Because we’re trained psychotherapists, we can ethically and effectively treat any mental health issues that stop you from taking the dating actions you know you need to take, including:

• Social Anxiety

• Generalized Anxiety

• Depression

• Autism

• Attention Deficit Disorder (ADHD)

• Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

In fact, many of our clients continue to work with us after finding their partner! Through individual and couples therapy, we help them deepen their relationships and respond skillfully to milestones such as getting married and starting a family.

We’re action-oriented

We know that talk isn’t enough when it comes to finding love. We’re passionate about using action-oriented approaches that help you learn through doing.

Yes, your dating coach or therapist will talk you through your dating issues and how to address them. But they won’t stop at simply understanding what’s holding you back. They’ll also help you set clear, concrete goals and identify a plan of action, including small but mighty steps you can take in and outside sessions to find love.

They won’t hesitate to role-play with you, teach you essential dating skills, or give you honest feedback about your online dating profile. They’ll use evidence-based approaches to ensure you’re gradually expanding your comfort zone and building the kinds of relationships you crave. If old hurts or internal obstacles arise, your therapist will use experiential, body-based, trauma-oriented approaches to help you develop the wisdom needed to recognize and accept healthy love.

We’re playful

We believe that play is at the heart of healthy romantic relationships. Our coaches use creative approaches like drama therapy to help you reconnect with the spontaneity and boldness underlying flirtation and intimacy.

We’re not afraid to role-play with you. We love it. We get in the soup with you so you can learn by doing. We’re happy to provide honest feedback and give you suggestions about how to improve, not to mention unlimited do-overs.

In addition, we try not to take ourselves too seriously :)  We love incorporating play and humor and never hesitate to crack a well-timed joke to help you feel at ease.

We recognize oppression (and talk about how to find love despite it)

We see that the dating game’s rigged for anyone who’s not straight, white, thin, young, able-bodied, cisgendered, neurotypical, and tall. We don’t shy away from talking transparently about oppression and how it impacts dating; we work with it rather than deny it.

Your therapist or coach will gladly hold space if you need to process your rage and grief about how prejudice has made your love life difficult. Your feelings make complete sense, and our hearts break with yours.

We’ll also help you develop a self-loving strategy that acknowledges the impact of dating in an unjust society without letting #theman win.